Be careful how you love.


Oh, be careful, husbands and wives, how you treat one another.

Beware of tiredness.
It makes patience shorter, tongues quicker, compassion more dim, and selfishness sharper.

Beware of busyness.
It makes you rush through moments you may later wish you had savored.

Beware of stress.
It makes you forget to put one another first.

Beware of the love of money.
It makes you forget what…and who…is really important. (I Timothy 6:10)

Beware of withholding affection from one another.
You are each other’s only lover. Give yourself freely and with joy. (1 Corinthians 7:3-5)

Beware of arguments.
You are on the same side. You are allies and confidants in life.
To fight against one another defeats oneness.

Beware of letting your friendship with one another slide.
You are each other’s best friend. Have fun together. Laugh together.
Guard each other’s trust above all else.

Beware of how you spend your free time.
Screens may entertain, but the eyes, smile, and voice of your beloved are infinitely more satisfying.
Don’t forget to date each other, woo each other, and work hard to keep your passion alive.

Beware of relationships with the opposite sex.
When not guarded carefully, they easily become too close, too personal, too intimate.
Before you know it, your love and affection can be shifted from truth to lies. (Proverbs 4:23; Hebrews 13:4)

Beware of temptation.
Pornography. Adultery. Emotional affairs.
Don’t give sin a second glance. Look away before the ugly becomes attractive. (Proverbs 7)

Beware of divorce.
God hates it. Just because society, and even the church, approves it does not make it ok.
Stay committed to your spouse. Fight for your marriage. Protect your marriage. (Matthew 19:9; Malachi 2:16)

Beware of selfishness.
It causes us to forget that we are to sacrifice ourselves.
Remember we are to look out not only for our own interests, but the interests of our spouse.
We are to esteem them as better than ourselves (Philippians 2:3-4).

Beware of anger.
It makes us speak words we cannot retract. (James 3:1-12)

Beware of the lack of accountability.
If you are not transparent with others about your struggles,
How can anyone know to help you in a time of need?

Beware of ungodly advice.
Words disguised as wisdom can bring confusion, and later, destruction. (1 Corinthians 3:19)

Beware of forgetting your first love.
Don’t let children come before your spouse.
Love your children with all your heart, but remember you cannot love them effectively without first loving their mother or father.
Your children need the security of your strong marriage.

Beware of forgetting your most important Love.
You cannot love your spouse without first loving God.
The health of all other relationships is dependent on your relationship with God.
Seek Him first and all others will become more beautiful. (Matthew 6:33)

Oh, be careful, husbands and wives, how you love one another.
“Beloved, let us love one another, for love is of God; and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God.” I John 4:7


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